With Self Love X Erin Cain

A Woman Of Many Talents 

Erin Emanii Cain was born and raised in Golden State, California. At age 6 she relocated to Michigan, were she experienced the majority of her childhood. Since becoming an adult, Erin has traveled the country in pursuit of her dreams as a model. Erin’s friends would describe her as very ambitious and passionate about her career. She stands 5’6 and is 33 years old. After over 11 years of experience, Erin has met many people and has developed her talents in areas to include: print, promotional, runway, radio, music videos, and independent films. Erin Emanii has been featured in developing magazines and newspapers all over the country and continues to work diligently in her pursuit of increased exposure and bigger features. Since dedicating her life to this career choice Erin has not looked back and takes every opportunity very seriously. As a precaution, she is often times accompanied by an escort to ensure that whomever she spends her time with does not take advantage of her femininity. Throughout Erin’s experiences she has been made aware that many photographers do not like escorts, and for that reason she has been very selective of offers she considers. Notable features include promotional modeling for big corporations like Pepsi in 2008, Maybelline and Starbucks in 2012, and gracing runways nationally. Erin’s experience as an actress ranges from playing the background as an extra for Stomp the Yard 2 in 2009, feature roles on the big screen in 2011 release “The Citizen” and “SextMessaging” in 2012. Needless to say she has owned the runway walking in everything from local events and small celebrations, to huge fashion shows like, PeaceLoveSpandex that attract designers and patrons from all over the world to Detroit. Most recently Erin has graced the cover of BX25 mag Feature in GEI magazine’s 2014 Swimsuit and Lingerie edition and has also been cast in Eloise which was released 2016. She was also in Division 19 and Bender. Erin Emanii Cain is also owner of Cain Empire, 1059Jam Tha Basement and Mia’Bella Beauty Emporium. Erin welcomes her fans to follow her on all social media outlets.

“Being in love with every part of yourself. Taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing for others. Also, not settling for less than you deserve”

To me, “ self love” is the ability to love yourself unconditionally flaws and all. And having the ability to either face your flaws head on in order to change them or the ability to be willing to embrace them as a part of your “individuality “.

What are the challenges you face when thinking of self-love?

Insecurity is one of the biggest challenges we face in our journey to self love; whether it be personal insecurities or insecurities in our relationships with other individuals. At times we often allow other people’s perception of us to affect how we view ourselves, impacting our self worth and self love.

How will you confront these challenges to move towards self-love?

Each day that god blesses me with the gift of life, I will continue to strive to be the best version of myself that I can be. In this journey, I will thaw each day one day at a time; constantly evolving in an attempt to make each day better than the previous one. The willingness to change for the better, and the implementation of the necessary actions is the best way to comfort these challenges to move towards self love.

Do you have a personal story that you can share with our readers about your struggles or successes along your journey of self-understanding and self-love? Was there ever a tipping point that triggered a change regarding your feelings of self love?

I’ll say in regards to this question is so you remember 2pac’s “ The Rose That Grew Through The Concrete “? Well that ultimately describes myself. I grew up in less than ideal circumstances and environments, which was a constant struggle within itself. When you come up as a child, and all you see is negativity and dysfunction, it tends to have an effect on you throughout life. I was an introvert when I met my husband, and although he displayed some extrovert attributes, underneath all of the layers he was introverted as well. And even though we were both internally broken to a degree, we ultimately became one another’s missing puzzle piece. The crazy thing is, we fit one another perfectly; but even that doesn’t mean that we didn’t have fair share of ups and downs. However our hood has outweighed our bad. Plus, we have taught one another what self love is as we grew together and we’ve also learned how to be in love with one another unconditionally.

As cheesy as it might sound to truly understand and “love yourself,” can you share with our readers a few reasons why it’s so important?

That’s not “ cheesy “, lol if you don’t truly understand who you are as a person and love yourself, you will never truly be able to successfully love anyone else. So it is very important to have a proper grasp of both of these elements.

When we talk about self-love and understanding we don’t necessarily mean blindly loving and accepting ourselves the way we are. Many times self-understanding requires us to reflect and ask ourselves the tough questions, to realize perhaps where we need to make changes in ourselves to be better not only for ourselves but our relationships. What are some of those tough questions that will cut through the safe space of comfort we like to maintain, that our readers might want to ask themselves?

The readers should ask themselves:

1) Am I being selfless or selfish?

2) Am I communicating effectively, including listening as well as speaking?

3) Am I praying for change, healing and growth?

4) Am I forgiving others as I want to be forgiven? 

Can you share an example of a time that you had to reflect and realize how you needed to make changes?

Honestly I believe everyday of your life should be both a day of reflection and action. My reason for saying this is because no one is perfect, thus making it a necessity to acknowledge that, and embrace change as you strive towards your goals.

What favorite book, podcast, or resource for self-psychology, intimacy, self love or relationships? What do you love about it and how did it resonate with you?

I love motivational podcasts by Steve Harvey, Les Brown, Daymond John, as well as “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapmen, just to name a few. Motivational speeches gives you the necessary encouragement and upliftment to not be afraid of failure or of change. Your fear should not be of failure, but rather of not trying. Remember learning to skate as a child? How many times did you fall before you actually learned to skate? And in learning to skate, how many times did you have to change or alter your technique to become a better and more effective skater? View life in the same perspective, with a never give up mentality! 

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? Maybe we’ll inspire our readers to start it…

Sometimes simplicity is often the key to success, although it is often overlooked, due to overthinking. If I could inspire a movement, my movement would be “E.C.N.C Grow!” That stands for Embrace Change, Nurture it, Cultivate it and Grow!” It’s a movement that was born from this interview. Let’s see what we can do with it to get it off of the ground. Let’s share it across all of our platforms, and embrace it wholeheartedly. When you get your day started in the mornings. Always remember to say it to yourself “Embrace Change, Nurture It, Cultivate It, and Grow!”. Make it your daily mantra to speaking positivity into your atmosphere. and implement action to accomplish your goals through this movement.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that you use to guide yourself by? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life and how our readers might learn to live by it in theirs?

Throughout life, I’ve acquired a lot of life lesson quotes that I’ve used to guide myself by, but like I mentioned earlier, embracing change is imminent. With that being said, in 2022 and beyond our life lesson quote is 

“Embrace Change, Nurture It, Cultivate It and Grow”!. Or E.C.N.C Grow!” for short. No matter what obstacles or hurdles may come our way, we must continue to press forward, and constantly speak positivity into our atmosphere. If you stumble or fall, get back up and dust yourself off, and keep pushing! In order to love anyone else in life, you must first learn to love yourself. Not selfishly, but selflessly. Always remember head up and chest out! Stay blessed!